Bonding with Your Baby – Before Birth

Motherhood begins at the moment we internalize the fact that we got a positive result on the pregnancy test we took.  Whether the pregnancy was planned or unplanned we immediately begin realizing that we are no longer responsible for only ourselves, but also for making decisions and taking actions for another potential life that is fully dependent upon us.  Our bodies most likely are already teeming over with hormones to support pregnancy.  It is also likely that we have already started to feel our bodies change in response to the presence of these hormones.

The way we respond to this news – these changes – can help us gracefully transition into mothering our babies after their birth.  The time we take to explore and enjoy our pregnancies can help us develop a bond to this life being tended inside our womb long before our eyes meet with theirs.

 The following are some activities you can do to begin bonding with your baby even before you share your pregnancy with others:

Think about how you would like to give birth to your baby and look into your various options. 

Your baby’s birthday will be one you will remember the rest of your life, and doing what is within your control to make it a day that is peaceful and safe means making some important decisions.  Mother’s Advocate and Childbirth Connection are two great places to begin looking.  Taking a childbirth class for early pregnancy, and again in preparation for birth will help you gather information on the resources and options available in your area.

Take time to nurture yourself!

Get involved in a prenatal yoga class, or do DVDs at home.  Get a prenatal massage.  Think about making your baby shower or blessingway a special mommy and baby centered event with meaningful activities planned.

Work through any fears you might have of birth and mothering.

Talk to other women who you trust.  Surround yourself with positive people.  Look into hiring a doula and taking birth classes to help you understand more about what happens during birth and the options you have available for your comfort and safety.  Pam England’s book, Birthing From Within is an excellent text to help you mentally prepare for labor and birth.

Spend time everyday with just your baby on your mind.

Take time to feel your baby move.  Pay attention to when your baby is most active.  Does your baby respond to your voice?  The voice of your partner?  Spend time thinking of your baby’s name.  If you know your baby’s gender, call him or her by their name.  If you choose not to learn your baby’s gender, give them a nickname that only the two of you know.  Sit.  Be still.  Listen.  Feel.  Spinningbabies is an excellent website to help you tune into your baby and his/her positioning in the womb.

Pregnancy can be an exhiliarating time.  With deep consideration and reverence for the nine + months it takes to grow your baby, you can also evolve personally during those months into a mother who is more than ready for the job of nurturing her baby outside of the womb.

About Kelli

I am Kelli B. Haywood, LCCE, a childbirth educator certified through Lamaze, a birth doula, and prenatal yoga instructor. My two little girls light my life. I am the wife of artist, musician, and teacher - John Haywood.
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